Deferring

In my walks of life , business, horses, military, whatever, people tend to give me advice or tell me how it is. Yesterday my farrier told me that in order to get my horses better about their feet I need to teach them to balance by tying up each of their feet one at a time for about 10 minutes each.... I agree they would stand better if they were balanced, but my 2 year old is still learning about having his feet picked up and that is not how I am going to teach him. I thought this was super shitty advice so I said to him,"Is that what you do with you young horses?" THere was a pregnant pause there and he said,"No actually my horses are bad because I don't have a ton of tiem to spend with them on their feet." He didn't even say I should do that, I could do that thats all he said.

So in light of this discovery I have decided that whenever anyone gives me advice I don't like or don't agree with I am going to ask them,"Is that what you did/do / are going to do?" and if it is they can tell me a story of how it worked for them. Otherwise they realize how stupid their comment is. I like advice, stories whatever. I don't want to be argumentative when I don't agree, or constantly nod and smile. I feel like I am selling out.

Adam cleaned the house the other day and it is SPOTLESS, and I love it. For some reason if I ask him to clean the house nicely, and I have to go some where, when I come home he has done a great job. Its pretty nice to know we don't only rely on my domestic skills. I left him a list of chores so when he came home I found a new list of chores for me. I think its great. We are really working to share the house hold duties. I think that's a good stride forward into the 21st century.